Splitting from your partner is hard enough, but when you have kids together, the process can become a lifelong challenge.
Parenting after separation or divorce isn’t easy for most people, but the good news is that it’s not impossible. If you take the time to learn a few crucial skills together and you’re willing to prioritize your child(ren),, you can both raise a healthy and well-adjusted child together.
Do you need help with conflict management or other common co-parenting issues? Keep reading to learn more about co-parenting counselling and who it can help.
1. Parents With Unresolved Emotional Issues
Sometimes partners can do or say things that are relationship deal breakers, such as lying all the time, cheating, or being selfish. Parents fighting in front of their children can cause lots of harm, which is why it’s important to work through the adult issues in private.
In relationships without children, often, the partners can make a clean break and learn to heal separately. When there are kids involved, separated or divorced parents need to talk through these emotional issues in order to move on and work as a team. Since emotional trauma is a heavy burden, counselling can give the two of you a safe, productive space to resolve conflicts.
2. Parents With Communication Issues
The best teams know how to communicate and come up with a game plan that maximizes everyone’s unique strengths. Healthy co-parenting is no different.
Whether one or both partners have a hard time opening up, staying calm during disagreements, or telling the truth, a counsellor can give you the tools you need to bridge the gaps.
The key to working past these issues is to get to the bottom of why you’re having communication issues in the first place. Once everything is out in the open, the two of you can work on doing better in the future.
There are times when delving into the past issues may not be beneficial for the current co-parent relationship. In those cases, communication skills can be learned and focused on. This allows the parents to keep focused on their child(ren) rather than rehash old hurts that may not be relevant.
3. Parents With Different Parenting Styles
No matter how much you and your partner love each other, having kids can put a strain on your relationship if you realize that you both have opposing parenting styles. If this is a big sore spot in your relationship, then counselling can help you learn how to compromise.
Although getting on the same page is difficult, it’s worth trying your best to reach an agreement. If you don’t, you both run the risk of confusing or even frightening your child if they don’t know which kind of behaviour is acceptable and which can lead to a punishment.
Do You Need Co-Parenting Counselling?
Splitting from your partner can be messy, but your child(ren) should never feel like they have to choose sides. Now that you know more about the benefits of co-parenting counselling, you can decide if taking this step can help you and your partner work through your issues so you can raise your child together.
Are you ready to get in touch with a counsellor who is trained and knowledgeable in helping you and your co-parent? If so, Crossroads Collective would love to take care of you and your family. Contact us to learn more about our different services and to book your appointment.